-by Bill Watkins 11/16/2017
It’s tempting to throw stones at all the men being called out for inappropriate sexual behavior toward women, and even young girls. I wanted to illuminate why that may not be a wise course of action; in fact, a blind judgment of male-perpetrated sexual harassment fails to look at and solve some of the root problems that lead to bad behavior by men.
1. Circumcision – Our First Abuse
We men are born with a cover on our penis. God, if you use that concept, our “Creator” (evolution if you want) put a safety hood on our members to protect the most sensitive part of our body, the reproductive unit, the great human populator. Certain religionists and other ancients thought it was a good idea to SNIP THIS COVER OFF OUR MALE INFANTS.
2. Alcoholism and Lack of Talk – The Second Abuse
We are not honest. We “protect” children from sex talk, avoid the topic—then expect them to get it from school or TV. What boys often get from school and TV is porn and “sex as competition,” where groping and “scoring” with females is touted over such a wonderful biblical tradition as:
Rejoicing with the Wife of Our Youth.
Solomon through Proverbs 5:18 and Malachi 2:15 emphasize the glory of monogamy, loyalty and commitment to the first girl God gives a boy to love. The first love is blessed and special. And yet in our American society we scoff at first crushes, avoid talks with boys that “love is good,” and show them a poor example by divorcing and philandering around from flower to flower.
Little boys confirm the competition aspect of sex bragged about on the playground, think that scoring “chicks” is preferable to loving one woman forever. Alcoholism plays into this, as it is a disease that plagues our abilities to be honest and communicate love. (Freud)
3. So off you go, Little Man!!!
“Enjoy your unprotected, hood-stripped, extra-sensitive penis, go out without advice and with our example of divorce and womanizing, alcoholism—AND TREAT WOMEN RIGHT!!!”
Not happening. And no wonder.
LET’S STOP ABUSING OUR BOYS, STRIPPING THEM OF PENIS PROTECTION, TALK TO THEM ABOUT SEX, BUT FIRST GO BACK TO GODLY, GOOD PRINCIPLES LIKE BEING LOYAL AND TRUE TO THE “WIFE OF OUR YOUTHS.” The first step to end abuse is to do what we are doing: out the truth, talk about the problem.
But then: Throw a stone?
No. Let us recover together, go back, pick up the pieces, apologize to our wives, re-think drinking flammable liquids that divert us from God’s will—and teach our children, first by example—that love is precious and sacred, that sex is great with the right partner in the right way. Then speak to them…
“Your mother and I love you, son, and show that first by loving each other. Second, we want to be available to your every question or concern. What? You are in love with Anne in third grade?… Son, that is so wonderful. Consider telling her in some way. Write her a card. Give her a flower. We are so proud of you. And thank God for our instincts to love!”